It is very obvious that Mr Zhai wakes up habitually at 3 am and 5/6am plus daily., whereas arms and legs will start to frail at 12am plus to 1 am.Now we see a pattern developing.... it's useless to teach him to sleep on his own cus he creates a din. and i cant take it.I stopped cluster feeding. i think it will create a whole new set of problems: 1) what if he does not take in all the milk, do i still feed him at 3 am? 2) No matter how i tickle his chin, he will not have a suckling action. he sleeps like a pig if he wants. Full stop. 3) Endang and MIL will not persist when i am in Taiwan and my efforts will go to waste.4) No matter what , he will still wake at 3 am and 5 am plus.

So there. we are back to old schedule. Dylan's arms will frail at midnight, i will pin them down lying beside him....------wrong action cause it is accidental parenting. but who cares. If it. frails even more, i carry him to put on my chest and we sleep. we both will sweat like pigs.Next i will wake an hour later put him back on the mattress. Then he will wake at 3 am plus.....cry cry, so drink milk. hope he sleeps. if he does----good. if not we will burp him , put him on chest to unwind him, if he protest, lay him down, give him bolster to jostle, then he will start to yawn, rub eyes, then wait a while longer, i wil pick him up , give him the pacifier, then rock a bit, he might cry / might not, depending on how sleepy is he, then his eyes will start to close, i will quickly lay him down and turn him to the side. and pat him to sleep. still i must stay next to him even if those eyes are close, just in case.then i will sleep with one hand on his butt.

goood, at least now we have a stupid routine.
Oh, ya, i dunno y he always shits when he drinks his milk...bad habit. bad bad bad habit.